Tools of Recovery

From S.L.A.A.'s experience, those who are recovering from sex and love addiction suggest that you:

  • Define your bottom line behavior (those activities from which we must refrain in order to attain physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual wholeness).
  • DON’T ACT OUT (i.e., acting out pain, shame, anger, etc. sexually/romantically, etc.; rather than talking it out) – just for today, this hour, this moment – no matter what! – IT WILL PASS.
  • Ask for help on a daily basis.
  • Set aside a time of prayer each morning and ask “Help me to stay away from ________ for today.”
  • Set aside a time of thanks each night and express gratitude for the help received by saying “Thank you.”
  • Attend S.L.A.A. meetings regularly.
  • Get names and phone numbers of sober S.L.A.A. members; call them.
  • Read S.L.A.A. literature.
  • Join a group.
  • Get active in your group and in your local Intergroup.
  • Keep a personal journal.
  • Get a sponsor or talk to an S.L.A.A. person on a daily basis for your withdrawal period.
  • Study the Twelve Steps.

Excerpted © 1985 S.L.A.A., Suggestions for Newcomers and © 1997 SLAA Welcome